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Sermon for the Twentieth Sunday after Pentecost – October 6, 2024
Mark 10:2-16
Dear friends, grace to you and peace from God our Father and our Lord Jesus Christ.
Preaching on marriage and divorce is a daunting task. These topics touch on some of the most sensitive and painful aspects of many peoples’ lives. Our texts for today also happen to poke several of the hottest hot button issues raging in our culture today.
For encouragement this week I looked up a sermon of Martin Luther’s on the topic. Surely someone as biblically astute and as graciously pastoral as Martin Luther would know how to tackle these sensitive issues, right? Well, I looked at his most famous marriage sermon, and the first words were, “How I dread preaching on the estate of marriage!” I found it oddly reassuring that even Luther himself approached these topics with a measure of dread! “But,” Luther continued, “timidity is no help in an emergency. I must proceed. I must try to instruct bewildered consciences and take up the matter boldly.”
So, despite the landmines in just about every sentence I am about to speak, let us proceed together boldly, listening to what God’s Word has to teach us today.
The Pharisees asked Jesus about marriage and divorce in an attempt to get him into trouble. Marriage and divorce were hot button issues in Jesus’ time too. In fact, you’ll recall that John the Baptist ended up imprisoned and ultimately executed because he dared to speak out against Herod after he divorced his first wife in order to marry his sister-in-law. There were also debates raging at this time about what exactly the Bible said about when divorce was allowed, with different rabbis lining up on different sides. If the Pharisees could drag Jesus into this debate, perhaps even get him to say something that would get him in trouble with Herod, maybe they wouldn’t have to deal with him anymore. This was the “test” for Jesus.
I think this context is important to note. In his reply, Jesus is not talking to a woman with an abusive husband. He is not talking to a spouse who has been abandoned or discarded for another. I believe Jesus would have had a very different reply for people in those situations. I’ll come back to that in a bit. The context here is that Jesus is talking to Pharisees who are trying to get him into trouble.
When these Pharisees ask Jesus about his take on the lawfulness of divorce, Jesus turns the question back to them, asking them what the law of Moses says. The Pharisees correctly point out that divorce is allowed in some circumstances. It is indeed there in the book of Deuteronomy that a man can give his wife a certificate of dismissal and divorce her. But Jesus isn’t satisfied with this answer. He wants to go deeper. And so Jesus identifies the root problem causing divorce. Jesus says that it isn’t so much a legal issue as it is a heart issue. The root problem is hearts that are hardened. “Because of your hardness of heart he wrote this commandment for you,” Jesus says.
A hardened heart is a heart that is opposed to God and to God’s will. Pharoah was described as having a hardened heart when he refused to obey God’s command to let his people go. The Greek word here translated as “hardened heart” is sklerocardia, which you might recognize as the root for diagnostic terms used in medicine today, terms like arterial sclerosis or cardiac arrest. These terms are used to describe hearts that are blocked and malfunctioning. Sklerocardia is a spiritual condition wherein the heart has blocked out God’s truth and so is out of beat. One theologian has described sklerocardia in this particular context as “willful blindness to truth and a stubborn refusal to yield to God and his ways for a properly ordered, healthy, and fruitful relationship as shown to us from the beginning of creation.”
And “the beginning of creation” is exactly where Jesus goes next. Jesus quickly moves beyond the finer points of the law of Moses and instead pulls out the blueprints for humankind. Jesus sets aside the already much-debated escape clause for divorce in Deuteronomy and begins a Bible study on Genesis, where God’s original intentions for marriage are made clear.
First Jesus quotes from Genesis 1, saying: “From the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’” Jesus goes back to the beginning, pointing out how God created two distinct but complimentary kinds of humans. They are literally made for each other! Jesus teaches here that gender is given by God and is an essential feature of the created order. Being male or female is bestowed by God, and it is good!
Then Jesus quotes from Genesis 2, saying: “‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.” Citing Genesis, Jesus describes marriage as the coming together of a man and a woman into an organic oneness. In marriage, these two halves of humanity come together in a unity that will be so close – relationally, spiritually, and physically – that they will be like one person. “So they are no longer two, but one flesh,” Jesus says.
To separate the two is not merely a matter of tearing up a contract, it is more like the tearing of flesh, with all the pain that brings. And so Jesus adds his own word, his own emphasis, saying, “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Citing the very blueprints God has given for humankind, Jesus describes what God’s intentions are for marriage. Two become one flesh. They become a single biological dyad, bound together by vows of love and faithfulness. This holy union will be the foundation of human society. This two becoming one will be the source of all human life.
This is something so beautiful and so essential that every culture across time and place has sought to celebrate it and encourage it and protect it. But at the same time, in a fallen world many hearts have been hardened against it. People railed against this in Jesus’ time, and they rail against it today too.
When I started out in ministry, divorce was the hot button issue. Now, a couple of decades later, just about every word Jesus says as he teaches from Genesis is railed against: from the basic realities of being a man or a woman, to the purpose of marriage, even the number of people a marriage might involve. Nearly every word out of Jesus’ mouth here is now being questioned, or resisted, or rejected entirely in our culture today.
When the Pharisees lured Jesus into this potentially dangerous topic, Jesus was every bit as bold as John the Baptist was. Jesus went right to the original blueprints for humankind in Genesis. Jesus was so insistent on God’s original intent in those blueprints that it shocked even the disciples.
As Jesus’ disciples today, these words are for us. Through this living Word Jesus is now teaching us. Our first reading from Genesis and Jesus’ own citation of it as authoritative are given for our benefit, that we would know the truth about God’s blueprint for the flourishing of humankind. We cannot be followers of Jesus while ignoring or rejecting the truth he so passionately proclaims. As it is, our society is increasingly losing touch with truth, losing touch with reality, certainly losing touch with something that God and his Son both call precious and holy. We dare not lose touch with it too.
At the same time, we cannot let our hearts be hardened towards those who are confused about this truth, and we cannot let our hearts be hardened towards those who have fallen short of it.
As followers of Jesus, we should not only look at what he teaches here when he is tangling with the Pharisees in a debate. We also need to look at how our Lord treated those who, for whatever reason, had fallen short of the blueprint. We need to consider how he treated people in concrete situations.
For example, there was the woman at the well. She had been married five times, and the man she was currently with was not her husband! And what did Jesus do?
He didn’t condone her situation, but neither did he condemn her. Instead, he offered her living water welling up to eternal life. He offered her a new life in him that would continue forever. He showed her mercy.
When he wasn’t debating Pharisees, Jesus went around the villages and towns healing those who were broken. He went around showing compassion towards those who were suffering from situations beyond their control. He went around forgiving those who had sinned. When it came to concrete situations, Jesus never stopped speaking the truth, but he also never failed to show mercy.
As Christians, we live at this intersection of truth and mercy. If we are going to call ourselves followers of Jesus, we need to keep these two in tension. There are truths given to us from the lips of our Lord that we cannot deny, but they must always be lived out with mercy towards those who don’t understand God’s truth or have fallen short of it. This balance isn’t always easy to find. Sometimes it is hard to know how this takes shape in the various concrete situations that we encounter in life. Fidelity to the truth will draw hard lines in the sand at times, but for followers of Jesus, it must always be done with mercy. It must be done with mercy because our Lord Jesus has had mercy on us.
You see, the truth is, we all have sklerocardia. No matter how successful one may be at marriage, we all have the same spiritual condition. We all have hardened hearts – they are just hardened in different ways, with different symptoms.
We all fall short of the blueprints in one way or another. This is not an excuse to throw them out, but it is a humbling reminder that every one of us, regardless of marital history or marital status, are equally dependent on God’s mercy, which he abundantly provides to all of us through his dear Son.
Marriage is a precious and holy thing. It is not merely a socially constructed human invention. It has been established by the God who created us. As such it is to be celebrated and cherished and guarded and honored. It is to be protected as fiercely as our Lord Jesus sought to protect it.
But as important as it is, there is only one marriage which saves us – and that is the marriage between Christ and his bride, the church. This bride, the church, is made up of people who are married or single, divorced or remarried, widows and widowers. This bride, the church, is made up of people who are sometimes confused or have fallen short in any number of ways. It is made up of people who have been joined to Christ through his mercy.
As Christ’s beloved bride, together our hearts are being healed by a merciful Lord who has joined himself to us forever, a merciful Lord who has promised to never leave nor forsake us, a merciful Lord who loves all of us and will never let us go.
Thanks be to God. Amen.
Rev. Jeffrey R. Spencer
Oak Harbor Lutheran Church